|Lonley is more than just a word.|
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happen. I put on my galoshes and went wading and searching for a mommy group. I didn't realize how long I would need to wallow in the mire. You would think that being in a metropolitan area that finding a mommy group would not be any issue, and it would be easy if I had the ability to be a stay at home mom. Nearly all the groups were geared to stay at home moms, and some even expressly looked down their virtual noses at working moms. For weeks I searched and was feeling even more alone than I ever thought possible. Finally, I found a group that looked interesting, Cincy Momsters-- a liberal progressive group for awkward moms-- "this is me!" I thought, and I stuck my neck out there to go to an event, that was on the weekend!
I was so nervous at the 1st meet-up that I almost chickened out, but I didn't I found the group with the red balloon tied to the stroller and introduced myself. Its really true, the 1st step is the hardest. Then I got to talking to the other moms and met their kids and I felt like crying then and there in the middle of the farmers market where we were meeting-- I found people who I could connect with again and they didn't judge me that I needed to leave because it was nap time. I did indeed smile so hard it hurt on the drive home as well as cry a little-- I think I have found my group.
I have been to a few events in the past 2 months and I know I have found my group. I am so happy to be in the process of getting to know a diverse group of women and their children, it still makes my heart beam. In closing-- if you are wallowing in the mire don't make it complicated-- get out there and find your people, they really are out there. If a wacky liberal progressive kinda crunchy working mom like me can find her people, so can you.
Let me know what you have done to break up the loneliness of motherhood.
PS Don't think for a moment that the darling husband has not been supportive, I just needed to connect with women and he actually knew I was lonely before I could admit it to myself.